To Title or not to title?

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Everyone who has ever been in a relationship has asked their significant other the same question: “What are we doing?” This is mostly known as having “The Talk.” There is always one person in the relationship that forces it and one that dreads it. Let us take a moment to ask ourselves why we need that title. Why is calling someone your boyfriend or girlfriend so important? Is there some sense of security that comes with giving someone that title, or getting it yourself? But giving someone the title of boyfriend or girlfriend doesn’t solidify anything, really. It doesn’t mean he/she is yours and that he/she will never leave.

Let us take this a step even further. Not to sound like an Adele song, but, it is a well-known fact that people break up all the time. People in relationships cheat all the time. People who have that title under their belt leave and at times there isn’t even any notice. So why force something that at the end of the day is just a word? It’s as if we look at those titles and think of them as insurance policies. But nothing can fully protect you from a potentially broken heart just because of a title.

At the end of the day, this title is just that, a title, a word. There is no way to really tell that a person won’t leave or break your heart. Actions speak louder than words. The only way a person can tell if someone will stick around is them actually sticking around. Take it one day at a time, and don’t force something that the other person isn’t ready for. This is a sure way to make a relationship last. Making it “Facebook official” isn’t a guarantee that you will be the next Ross and Rachel. Time truly tells if a relationship will last, not social media or titles.